Hello!
Someone, I'm not going to say who,but someone asked me to blog about the problem faced most commonly by everyone. And I'm not talking about the stomach-flu or farts! I mean when two people terminate their relationship. I can't think of way to make this piece humorous or 'light reading'. It is a rather dejected and melancholic subject.
So, how and where should I start from? Sometimes, you can see it coming, if the two of you have been in a blue funk for a while. And sometimes, things are going perfectly well and smoothly for you and then the bomb is dropped right on your head. BOOM! I wish it was BOOM! and then over. But the aftermath lingers and seems never ending.
There are various stages of the aftermath. And more or less everyone faces them, unless you didn't care about the relationship and separating wasn't a big deal for you.
STAGE 1: Denial- If you've been associated with the person for long enough and you are extremely attached to them, you tend to deny the fact that it's over. You believe its a buffoonery,and that any moment they'll start laughing and say,"HAHA! GOT YOU!". For a few days or maybe weeks you'll think that anytime now you'll reconcile. You might get lucky and that might actually happen but the chances are few.
STAGE 2: Mope- You've accepted the truth. You spend your time watching films,listening to music,crying,calling your friends up every now and then and recapitulate and say," It was fine. And he loved me! I don't understand how this could happen".
STAGE 3:Remembrance-You read old texts,facebook messages,wear/use gifts received from them,call and hang up. Cry some more.
STAGE 4: Distraction- It takes a LONG time to reach here. You get sick of crying and feeling unhappy. You try to distract yourself,engage yourself in various activities and classes.
Okay! So, I think I've covered most of the stages. I'll tell you what NOT to do and which can speed up the process of recovery.
RULE NO.1: As hard as it may seem, you need to accept the reality. It's harder than it seems but the sooner you accept the faster you can recover.
RULE NO.2: Please don't mope for too long. You'll get sick of it yourself. There is no point crying for so long. If crying could solve problems I'd cry every minute just to ensure no problem ever arose.
RULE NO.3: Throw everything away or keep it under lock and key. Don't find reasons to mope and feel pathetic. You're goal should be to move on,not to remain in a limbo.
RULE NO.4: Distract yourself. Meet friends. Spend time with family. Don't keep talking about your ex. Use the time to your advantage. If you're in school/college, STUDY! Consider it a blessing in disguise.
Here's an extra bit of advice. Don't be mean to you ex. It's alright. There is always an explanation as to why they called it off. Don't stop trusting people. Don't punish others for someone else's mistake.
You will be happy again. Don't lose hope :)
So here's the song that will make sense to you if you're going through the rough patch. Hope you feel better soon :)
