It's Easy Being Mean...

Hello! For the first time, I'm blogging in a negative frame of mind. It's just that a few things, rather people have been bothering me off late. Mean people. Yes, mean people bother me, as they do to everyone. And I'm not writing this because I think I've been victimized but simply because I've also witnessed others being victims to mindless and insensitive ridicule.

I've seen a few kinds of mean and i'd like to enlist them.

1) THE DISGUISE: These kind of mean normally prey on the weak and insecure and on those who hold on to their guard. They broadcast these insecurities in forms of jokes or 'casual taunts'. Now, they want to portray themselves as being funny and casual but the victim and the perpetrator are the only two who know the intentions aren't casual but exactly the opposite.

2) THE STINGER: These kind of mean are usually people who are close to you. In fits of anger they blurt out things about you, that you once shared with them in confidence. That truly stings. Intentional or not, it's still a rather mean thing to do.

3) THE FOE: They are the enemy. But they pretend to be your friend because unfortunately for them you're the most liked person in the group. And since they are your 'pretend friend' they think they can get away with poking fun at you or hitting you which normally you would let go with a friend. So these means take advantage of the situation and do mean things. They abide by the quote "KEEP YOUR FRIENDS CLOSE BUT KEEP YOUR ENEMIES CLOSER" a little too seriously :P

4) THE BETRAYER: They were close to you once upon a time, but turned against you for some reason. They use your personal issues and secrets that you confided to them in confidence as a punch line to a very mean joke just to hit you where it hurts. Now, there's no need to do that, but that's how they think is the most successful method of bringing you down.

5) THE QUEEN MEAN: They are the worst kind of mean. They have no ulterior motive or advantage over you or their activities, but they're mean only because they like being mean. Causing discomfort or misery to another simply gives them some twisted form of evil satisfaction. They don't go out of their way to harm you. They simply do things which irritate you the most and upset you to a degree which claims their victory.

So. I've stated the kinds of mean that I've encountered.    My fellow victims, all I can tell you is don't stoop to their level and don't allow them the satisfaction of having affected you.

 It's so easy being mean. Have you  tried being nice? If  we have a certain problem with an individual we simply ignore their quirks or learn to accept them, if ignoring them is out of the question. Their is no need to be mingy or penny pinching.

We all come across people that we dislike but being mean to them has no justification whatsoever. If you ask me, being mean cannot be justified at all. So instead of being a birdbrain prigy snob, we can simply ignore the person. Saves a lot of mind juggling and plotting and unhappiness, don't you think?

All I can say is, it's easy being mean, but try once to be nice. You might actually like it.

Okay, I don't like leaving my readers in an uncomfortable state of mind. So after you're done reading this watch this. It'll help lighten you up. I watch it every time I feel low. Works better than magic at making me smile.

Reflections Of A Monomaniacal Student

Hello! I know it's been a while, but I honestly didn't want to write about something just for the sake of keeping my blog alive! Don't worry! My blog shall live as long as... I have easy access to internet! Of course! Why? What were you thinking?

Anyway, I've been busy( No, not really). Alright I've been pretending to be busy(no actually I was a little busy reading,watching television and films). Okay, I'm rambling!

I'm a bit nervous because my university exams are right around the corner and waiting to spring at me any second now and I'm terrified. I've put in a couple of hours of regular studies so that I wouldn't panic at the last minute but I did end up panicking AS ALWAYS. It dawned on me that these exams are very crucial to maintain a steady grade, which I intend to and to do so I must score well in each and every subject.

Yup, the chip on my shoulder weighs a 100 pounds and it's getting heavier and heavier. Exams have become such a HUGE deal nowadays and I think that's actually isn't  the purpose of answering them. The purpose is figuring out how much knowledge you've acquired at the end of the term and the manner in which you apply that knowledge is evaluated.

The entire system has been reconstructed into a meaningless competition only to establish the superiority of X's memory from Y's. Personally, I think it's silly and meaningless. Unfortunately my thinking so doesn't change the fact that I am also a part of this system and a monomaniacal competitor.

This affects me gravely. I feel nervous, I keep pondering about how much effort and how many hours my fellow competitors are putting in, I eat less,sleep is out of the question and I keep ringing up my friends and ramble constantly about how ill-prepared I am and how miserably I shall fare at least 15 times a day. Since most of my reserve energy is squandered, I spend the rest of the day lazing. Sounds pointless, doesn't it?

Why do we care so much? Why do we bother SO MUCH MORE THAN IS GOOD FOR US? Aiming high and achieving your goals and a little bit of friendly competition to make the predicament a tad bit fun is alright. But, turning it into some horrible catastrophe is pathetic.

So if you are a monomaniacal competitor like me( rather like what I was) here's what I want you to do:

1)EAT CHOCOLATE: Yes! I want you to buy yourself a lovely bar of chocolate, something a bit fancy maybe and eat away! If you're diabetic, buy yourself a low sugar one and eat away! With each bite I want you to think about nothing but that creamy chocolate melting in your mouth.

2)MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS: Why do you care how he/she studies? Do it your own way, you are you and learn to be happy with it.

3)CALL A STERN FRIEND WHO'LL TELL YOU THE SAME: It's tough. Not minding your own business I know! Been there,done that. So call a friend you know will tell you to mind your own business and won't allow you even a sniff.

4)SLEEP: You know you need it. and you know you want it!

5)DON'T FEEL INTIMIDATED: Okay, this is a big one. Your parents, family, society in general is going to intimidate you. Your parents will do it unknowingly but they will. And if you're smart, you'll figure out when you are amidst an on going session. I want you to leave,run, flee from the conversation without being even a tad bit rude. Don't go into a limbo or self-loathe mode( nice term, right?). You don't need to slog after such a conversation only because you feel obligated to please your parents and the society. There is only one person you need to please. The Dalai Lama's Cat. Yes, that's who you need to please, even though I mentioned person( I've never quite understood why they call him 'The' Dalai Lama. That's grammatically incorrect.)
Jokes apart. You need to please yourself. Feel satisfied with your own efforts and your own achievement. If you're happy you'll make everyone around you happy(conditions apply*)
 I'm a very philosophical person with very abysmal thoughts and ideas so I think I'm going to stick to the point and say, don't feel intimidated by what people say to you. They say all sorts of things for various reasons but there is no need to feel intimidated,that's all.

6)GIVE IT YOUR BEST SHOT: That's all that matters.


I sincerely hope this was helpful. Do well for your exams. Relax, it's a big deal but not as huge as your perception of it. Be happy :)

Here's a song to give you a boost :)

Dear Teacher...

Hello! I think you're all probably wondering what this ones' about. Well, here's a suggestion...why don't you just read it ;) Haha! This is probably the only funny thing you'll read in this one. Umm,okay, I admit it, it wasn't funny either.

I'm a student, and I've noticed the way most students talk to and about teachers. It is extremely shameful and rather upsetting. Hardly one out of ten students genuinely respect their teachers. I'm not referring to myself as a 'Miss Goodie Two Shoes' and claiming to be the most well-mannered person that ever walked the planet.

I've also had my share of making fun of teachers,imitating them and correcting them in case they made an error. But, I've never done so with the intention to hurt or to insult any of them. Neither have I needlessly corrected them nor have I ever made a very nasty remark simply for the sake of trying to establish myself as a little superior to them. I've witnessed all of this happening to teachers and I personally feel that it is very wrong.

So, this post it dedicated to all the teachers in the world and I'm writing this letter, expressing my gratitude to them.

Dear Teacher,
                       
I think you are amazing. You have taught me how to hold a pen and taught me how to use it wisely. You've taught me inside a classroom, how to succeed outside it. You've never wronged me,only showed me what was wrong and ensured I made it right. You've given me your best, and hoped for my best. You've shown anger, only to express your concern. You've taught me with love and treated me with care. And for all of this, I thank you. Thank you so much, FOR EVERYTHING.

Sincerely, 
A Student.

What's The Story Morning Glory?

HELLO!

It's been a while I know, but it's hard to come up with stuff that makes sense, or doesn't :p 

I was just wondering how I behave immediately after I wake up. Well here's what I've come up with so far:
My alarm goes off at 6:30, I force myself to wake up at 6:40. With just one eye barely open I make it to my bathroom bumping into my bedpost at least once. I play my morning playlist( I'll link it, don't worry, in case you were wondering what helps me get my act together), I brush my teeth. By then I'm awake-ish and I go out and wish my mum, grab a bath, bla bla bla yadi yadi yadi. 

 I'm not in the best frame of mind first thing in the morning. Well, as far as I am concerned that grogginess lasts for only 10 minutes or so. But I've come across a few people who are extremely moody,upset,irritated first thing in the morning. Who on earth could've got their goat first thing in the morning?

I KNOW! IT'S LAZE! Yup, we all are to some extent lazy and moody in the morning. That's alright and it's perfectly normal! What isn't alright is when the mood swing stretches a little too far.

The thing is, we don't like waking up early and going about our monotonous routine. I HATE IT! I HATE WAKING UP AT SIX IN THE MORNING. THE MORNINGS AFTER A SUNDAY ARE THE WORST! We do tend to feel a little more irritated than usual on Mondays. When I ask people about their state of minds, they simply say "I have no reason to feel happy in the morning, I have to wake up early and do this and do that and my life is monotonous".

Sorry to break it to you honey, but you're not the only one! The entire world does it, but not everyone complains! Imagine if the entire world was gloomy and irritated in the morning? How would the entire day progress? It would be rather annoying, listening to everyone complain about the same thing. As if listening about tests and homework wasn't enough, we now have another issue to hear cribs about, MORNINGS!

Think about it. As far as reasons for being happy are concerned, I'll give you two right now *writing spontaneously*
 1)YOU'RE ALIVE AND BREATHING! CONSIDER IT A BLESSING THAT YOU COULD OPEN YOUR EYES AND SEE YET ANOTHER MORNING AND ARE PERFECTLY ALRIGHT!

2)*thinking*...*still thinking*... JUST BE HAPPY MAN! YOU'RE ALIVE!

Yup, I couldn't come up with a second one :p

Be happy! Spread the joy! You're alive! And it's yet another beautiful morning! If you're a hipster and own a pair of hipster glasses look at the world through them( I've done that a thousand times and the world looks retro and indie and extremely beautiful)

Just look outside your window, you can see the entire world, if you're living at a great height that is. If you're living in a bungalow, sorry mate, I feel your pain.Anyway, here's what I suggest you do to make your mornings a little more lively if you're not at all a morning person. I wasn't one once upon a time and this is what I did to alter my mood.

1)SET YOUR OWN ALARM: It's better to set your own alarm, so that you can wake up exactly and at the exact minute that you want to wake up and your Mum doesn't have to encounter your morning wrath for waking you up either too early or too late.

2)SET A NICE ALARM TUNE: Set a happy song as your alarm. Thank God for technology we can set the alarm tune as per our own wishes. That *beep* *beep* *beep* could even drive a saint up the wall!

3)STRAIGHT TO THE LOO:  Don't make any eye contact or conversation, run straight to the loo. Brush, wash your face and then step out for a minute and wish your family. Wash away the grogginess. If you're still groggy even after having brushed your teeth, bathe and dress and then talk to your family.

4) TURN UP THE RADIO: While you're trying to get rid of your grogginess, listen to upbeat music and happy music that you like to sing along to. It helps. It really does. Listen to whatever makes you happy. And sing! It doesn't matter if your a terrible singer, no one's going to be able to hear you when you're in the loo!

5) GET THE MOVES LIKE JAGGER: Dance a little. Wave your hands here and there and do something funny that will make you laugh.

Okay, I sincerely hope this helps. This is what I do. Works for me.
So if you do something funny and cute, don't forget to mention it in the comments. I'd love it if I had some proof that my mother is not the only one reading this :P Cheers :)
 

Here's the link that I promised to share:

                                         Click here and get access to my very own, morning mix!





  

Six Degrees Of Desperation.

Hello!

Someone, I'm not going to say who,but someone asked me to blog about the problem faced most commonly by everyone. And I'm not talking about the stomach-flu or farts! I mean when two people terminate their relationship. I can't think of way to make this piece humorous or 'light reading'. It is a rather dejected and melancholic subject.

So, how and where should I start from? Sometimes, you can see it coming, if the two of you have been in a blue funk for a while. And sometimes, things are going perfectly well and smoothly for you and then the bomb is dropped right on your head. BOOM! I wish it was BOOM! and then over. But the aftermath lingers and seems never ending. 

There are various stages of the aftermath. And more or less everyone faces them, unless you didn't care about the relationship and separating wasn't a big deal for you.

STAGE 1: Denial- If you've been associated with the person for long enough and you are extremely attached to them, you tend to deny the fact that it's over. You believe its a buffoonery,and that any moment they'll start laughing and say,"HAHA! GOT YOU!". For a few days or maybe weeks you'll think that anytime now you'll reconcile. You might get lucky and that might actually happen but the chances are few.

STAGE 2: Mope- You've accepted the truth. You spend your time watching films,listening to music,crying,calling your friends up every now and then and recapitulate and say," It was fine. And he loved me! I don't understand how this could happen".

STAGE 3:Remembrance-You read old texts,facebook messages,wear/use gifts received from them,call and hang up. Cry some more.

 STAGE 4: Distraction- It takes a LONG time to reach here. You get sick of crying and feeling unhappy. You try to distract yourself,engage yourself in various activities and classes.

Okay! So, I think I've covered most of the stages. I'll tell you what NOT to do and which can speed up the process of recovery.

RULE NO.1: As hard as it may seem, you need to accept the reality. It's harder than it seems but the sooner you accept the faster you can recover.

RULE NO.2: Please don't mope for too long. You'll get sick of it yourself. There is no point crying for so long. If crying could solve problems I'd cry every minute just to ensure no problem ever arose. 

RULE NO.3: Throw everything away or keep it under lock and key. Don't find reasons to mope and feel pathetic. You're goal should be to move on,not to remain in a limbo.

RULE NO.4: Distract yourself. Meet friends. Spend time with family. Don't keep talking about your ex. Use the time to your advantage. If you're in school/college, STUDY! Consider it a blessing in disguise. 

Here's an extra bit of advice. Don't be mean to you ex. It's alright. There is always an explanation as to why they called it off. Don't stop trusting people. Don't punish others for someone else's mistake. 

You will be happy again. Don't lose hope :)

So here's the song that will make sense to you if you're going through the rough patch. Hope you feel better soon :)

The Lost Art Of Keeping A Secret

Okay, so I was listening to Queens Of The Stone Age(one of my favorite bands) and I happened to stumble upon this song- The Lost Art Of Keeping A Secret and realized that the song actually makes sense. And please do check the band out, it's pretty awesome! Anyway, I shall now unfold the mystery of circulating juicy gossip.
 We all have that one best friend or best friends with whom we share our deepest and darkest secrets. We tend to forget the fact that they also have that one best friend with whom they share their deepest and darkest secrets which indirectly permits them to reveal your secrets to that one friend.
That's how the cycle goes on.
This one time, i told my friend something and she solemnly swore to keep her mouth shut. After a couple of days another friend of mine came up to me and told me my own secret. I felt embarrassed, annoyed, betrayed,amused all at the same time. I laughed it off so my friends life wasn't in jeopardy.
We all gossip. I would be a liar if I said I didn't.I try not to,but sometimes if I'm really really bored I do ask people to update me with the "current affairs".
Gossiping is an art. There is a way to do it. So here are a few tips to keep the gossip harmless and saving your friend from having a psychotic impulse to hunt you down and kill you or cut your tongue off.
RULE NO.1: If you have to gossip and you cannot think of anything better to do, try to keep the victim of the gossip as anonymous as possible. That way their identity will be concealed and the news will be considered a buffoonery and forgotten.
RULE NO.2: Try to keep the gossip limited to the victims embarrassing encounters and avoid personal issues,details. That is completely against the code of a true gossiper, because exposing personal details just makes you a cow.
RULE NO.3:Choose your words wisely. Say precisely what is meant to be said and nothing more. Don't exaggerate the details. If the identity of the victim is inferred, you will be killed.
RULE NO.4:If you can't follow the above mentioned rules and need to violate them, maintain a diary and keep it in hiding. Spill your brains out in it if you please. You have the freedom to think whatever you like,but freedom of speech-sometimes it's best to keep your mouth shut.
Okay! So, I hope this was helpful. I refuse to be a hypocrite and say don't gossip but please don't harm your friendship just for a few minutes of fun. And understand the difference between gossiping and dishing. I know it's hard to conceal news but if you find the need to gossip,keep one thing in mind: you are putting your friendship on the line. So if you think it's worth the risk, you have nothing to worry about. I know gossiping is like smoking. the resemblance being:they are both hard to quit. But where there is a will,there is a way. I've cut down. It wasn't a piece of cake,but every time I thought of gossiping I commemorated the fact that I expect my friend to keep my secrets so it's only fair if I do the same. And if I need to gossip,I follow the code of conduct(came up with them myself.Copyrights).
So here's the song that inspired me.Check it out. Check the band out. No fun rhyme this time! Bye Bye!

The Fear Of Dealing With Loss

Okay, let's be honest. We all have a lot of fears. i have an endless list. Every single one of us is scared of something or the other. According to leading psychologists, there are three main kinds of phobias : specific,social and agora.

I am scared of sharks. I'm petrified of them! In spite of being so scared of them I have seen Jaws, Jaws 2,Jaws 3-D, Jaws: The Revenge, Deep Blue Sea,Open Water,The Reef,Great White,Deep Blood,etc. way too many times than i should have. Smart huh? I have no clue why I did that. Not the faintest of ideas. My sister often used to trouble me when we went to the beach. I almost drowned once because she had convinced me that a great white was coming my way. But then i found out that sharks don't come so close to the shore! Objection! I beg to differ! I can bet my last dollar that that's not how they portrayed the species in Jaws!

Enough with the sharks now. Okay, now I'm going to be completely honest. I'm also scared of losing people. THERE! I SAID IT! I'm petrified of losing people.There is a saying," To win some, You lose some". RUBBISH!  I don't think so! I hate getting attached to people and then losing them!  I know it's a weird fear!  But we all have that one weird fear. The world thinks you're a nutcase for being scared of such a silly thing and we say the same for theirs. It's normal! So ya! I'm scared of losing people and so are many others. I checked. I'm not the only one :P
And I think I've learnt how to deal with it so i thought why don't i help my fellow travelers.

Now when it comes to dealing with that, the trick is................there is no trick. You just have to let go. I still find myself in knots when I face the situation.
But people always leave! They don't mean to hurt you or leave you. But sometimes they just can't help it.That's just the way of life I guess. You may feel sad for a while but don't let your life come to a stand still.Let go. It is the only way. New people come. You may miss the old ones but there is not much you can do about it. And it hurts for a while but it gets better.
Remember one thing L.I.F.E .G.O.E.S. O.N. So yes, this is what i have to say to you. Life goes on and you should too :)

P.s. If you're afraid of Great Whites stay away from Dyer Islands,South Africa. It's known to be INFESTED with them(I've done my research on them. Major phobia and slight obsession due to major phobia,so).

Oh! And here comes the fun song!

Have no fear!
Even though Zorro isn't here!
Wipe your tears!
And grab a chilled beer!

COLLEGE!

HELLO! HELLO! I'M BACK!
So I promised myself that i would blog every single week, which was then brought down to every single month which was brought down to whenever I felt like it. I thought i could easily come up with an average rated piece but the last time I tried that-EPIC FAIL!!!! Only 48 people read it, and I'm sure my Mum read it 47 times.
I've been occupied, blowing my own trumpet after my HSC results(i meant the instrument,not the figure of speech)! Anyway, I got into Xavier s, the college of my dreams! And i know quite a few people in my class and quite a few seniors are my good ol' pals! So no adjustment issues,bla bla bla issues,etc.

Okay, yes! I know you all are probably wondering how this piece qualifies for a "LESSONS OF LIFE", just getting to that in a second. So I have friends in my class, seniors who are close friends, so there is no need for me to suck up to other seniors for notes and stuff right? BUT I TRIED TO! I DID! I TRIED TO DO THAT! In fact I was just about to when i realized what i was doing and thought voila! I could turn this episode into an inspirational advice column!

Please don't try to impress people and especially not your seniors, they are much smarter and have been through the entire process to know exactly what you're up to. Not only will you be caught, but you shall only be ridiculed about and turned into a laughing stock. So please don't try and make any CONTACTS, if you need help people shall help you. And popularity? Don't worry about that, it comes and goes with time and place. So chill, have a good time and don't try too hard to impress your seniors, they know exactly what you're doing.

All the best if you've just entered college as well! I hope you have a great college life!

College is fun!
This is not a pun!
Rhyming word that make sense, can think of none! 
Bye Bye now! Hope you don't own a gun! 

Trying Too Hard

This is my first blog as a blogger and we all know,the first piece is extremely important. You are judged on its basis. So i chose to express my thoughts about trying too hard.

I thought for weeks about what i should write about. I have been writing and tearing pages all week, trying to rack my brains and coming up with the perfect piece for my debut. In fact I had  a rather interesting session of brain storming with my family which turned into a philosophy class(isn't that always the case?)
So anyway, it ended with me being frustrated and annoyed. So after i was done flooding the house with my tears my Mum said," I think i know what your problem is. You are TRYING TOO HARD! So stop! And just be yourself! And stop flooding the house! Kidding!".

Well that helped, A LOT! I posted this,didn't I?

That's the thing! We all try too hard to make a great first impression! We try to make everything perfect,but sometimes that's just not possible! Nobody's perfect! And trying too hard-backfires. Trust me! My profile has been on since a week and 8 people have already viewed my profile and discovered there is not a single post! I didn't post anything because i was too worried about how my post will be rated,whether it will be rated or not. And the worst one was-what if nobody sees it!

 I stopped trying too hard and wrote what was on my mind! I swear I didn't open the dictionary even once to come up with a fancy word! But i did spend half an hour on the background template!

So yes, this is me! This is how I think. Be sure to let me know what you think! And if there is something you want to do, go ahead and do it! Don't worry about not being perfect! Nobody is!(I think).

Don't stop trying,
But please stop crying!
You won't be a fool,
You will look very cool!